Lack of Motivation

Why not visit the new share portal.. 4shared.com. This is virus free. I had downloaded useful motivation in audio format. I find Tony Robbins work is fascinating. His work is about self help.

Then i came across an interesting subject "Make friends and influence others".. Its hours of listening... but has pointed out several good points. But a bit long winded with "so&so quote this and that.."

"How to be your own therapist"

This is a masterpiece by Pat Farell (2003).
I got this from the Sarawak Pustaka Library...
There are 10 tools : -

1. Challlenge & Change
2. Open Your eyes & face Reality
3. Make lots of Mistakes
4. Quit whining
5. Act like the person you want to be
6. Accept yourself, warts & All
7. Fire your parents
8. Challenge Authority
9. Stick up for yourself
10. Live Dangerously

Some interesting points that i'd like to remember...: -

1. Self-therapy is about getting what you want from your life. (p.38)
2. There is never a reason for you to feel self-loathing, and if you do, there's something you need to change about your belief and behaviors (p.51)
4. Being wrong won't kill you - and it may make you smarter (p.63)
5. Mistakes are the usual bridge between inexperience and wisdom (Phyllis Theroux p.68)
6. Whining may result in temporary victory (p. 97).
7. No one likes to listen to a child whine, and the resulting annoyance is only multiplied when it's coming from an adult. The cost to you is a decrease in liking ,respect, and admiration from those around you; when others see behaviour in you that does not fit your age, your role, and/or your abililties, they thend ot respond with annyoance. ... you're powerless... Whining is built upon the fallacy that you want to be rescued(p.98-9)
8. In order to succeed at quitting whining, you need to develop a set of replacement skills, and these will be in the realm of communication. The most important skill you can develop is to ask yourself (and then answer) this brief series of questions when you feel a whine coming on (p. 109)

Unappreciated help

I found this - they describe my situation now...:

"http://www.mattstarkey.com/about_me/about_me.htm
...I realized I needed my life back. Late night maintenance calls and endless hours of unappreciated help were not for me!"

"http://www.blogcatalog.com/discuss/entry/feeling-unappreciated ...people who are feeling unappreciated are probably too worried about being appreciated. "

The perfect solution!
"http://www.happiness-project.com/happiness_project/2009/04/taken-for-granted-5-tips-for-dealing-with-feeling-unappreciated.html Remember that being taken for granted is a form of praise. It’s ironic: the more reliable you are, and the less you complain, the more likely you are to be taken for granted. If you always meet deadlines, if you never lose your temper, if you’re always prepared, people overlook your efforts. Really, that’s a compliment. "

Need for success

Here's a good article for self improvement. I will try to practice this...

4hb.com -- By Category -- Wisdom and Life Skills --
Your 12 Point Plan for Personal Success

By Stephan Iscoe

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1. ...you is the only person responsible for your success. ...

2. ...Positive thoughts drive out negative thoughts.

3. ...Feel good about yourself and your abilities, achievements and potential. Don't dwell on your mistakes. Remind and praise yourself on your past accomplishments. Congratulate yourself for taking positive steps toward a more successful future.

4. Believe in yourself. .... Find your mission and begin working to fulfill it.

5. ...Decide right now that you will be successful. Commit to being successful.

6. ...Associate with successful people. Do what they do. When faced with choices, make the choice a successful person would make. ..

7. Avoid unsuccessful people. ... Avoid all the whiners, complainers, blamers and thumbsuckers.

8. Do what you are best at and what you get the most satisfaction from. ..

9. Write down a vision of how you want to live your life. Be specific. ...Every day visualize yourself as you would like to be - and then act that way!

10. Write down your biggest goal, the one you most want to fulfill. .... Read your goal aloud every morning and night. Tell people your goal. Make a plan to achieve your goal and stick to it.

11. Study the science of success. .... Talk to successful people and ask them how they became successful. Fill your mind with positive thoughts and give yourself positive self- affirmations.

12. Every day do something that brings you closer to your goal. Never give up. ...

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